How to Tell if a Girl Likes You: For Autistic Individuals
Dating is not
always easy and everyone experiences uncertainty about whether they
are reading the signals from their potential partner correctly.
However, when you throw autism into the mix, this can complicate
If you are on the
autism spectrum, it’s only natural to want to tell if a girl likes
you so let’s look at some of the signals, both via text and face to
face, which can make reading the situation easier.
Take It Slow
When we are keen on
someone it’s a natural instinct to want to keep in contact with them
frequently, see them as often as we can and sometimes declare our
feelings too quickly. However, the dating game is tricky and
sometimes seeming too eager can cause the other person to withdraw.
It’s also difficult to know sometimes whether someone sees you as a
friend or whether a romantic relationship is on the horizon.
It’s All In the Text
How can you tell on
text whether the girl of your dreams wants to hear more from you?
One of the first
signs that a girl likes you is if she starts conversations over text
and responds relatively quickly when you reply. She is keen to keep
the interaction going. Other signals are she readily agrees with
your point of view; asks your opinion of her; often laughs at your
jokes; and engages with what you are saying.
Things are going
well but you may still be unsure whether she sees you as a friend or
as a potential boyfriend. If you rush in immediately and suggest a
date, there is the risk you might be turned down. So here’s a
slightly different way to approach the situation.
Let’s say you have
discovered a great bar that has opened in town. Instead of taking
the direct approach and asking your love interest out directly by
texting “want to come to that new bar in town with me next
Saturday?” Instead mention the topic but leave it to her to express
enthusiasm. You can text over something like “heard that the new bar
which has opened in the High Street is really good. We should head
there some time.”
If she is keen, she
should respond enthusiastically and maybe even suggest a couple of
days when she is free. If she is not so keen she may agree in a
non-committal way but let the conversation drop. Either way, at
least you know where you stand, plus you haven’t been turned down
because you just put it out there as a possibility.
Reading The Signs When You Are Face to Face
If you are face to
face with a girl you like there are several ways which can help you
find out whether she likes you in a romantic way.
Keeping Eye Contact and Mirroring
When you are
attracted to someone, you want to look at them all the time and the
same is true for girls. They hold eye contact because they are in to
you and want to show they are giving you their full attention.
Mirroring happens when we unconsciously take the same actions as the
other person, maybe taking a sip of drink at the same time or moving
our hands in the same way. Both are great signs.
Lots of Little Touches
We don’t touch
someone we don’t want to be around so if she often touches your arm,
brushes against you when you are side by side or taps your shoulder
to get your full attention, then she definitely enjoys spending time
She’s Keen to Laugh
at Your Jokes
Maybe you aren’t
the best joke teller in the world but this girl seems to find you
funnier than most and that’s a good sign. In a group situation she
laughs just a little louder than everyone else and this means she
wants to show you she appreciates you.
Looking Her Best
If you head out for
a night and its obvious your date has gone to a lot of effort to
look her best, it’s clear she wants the evening to go well. She may
even reappear after heading to the bathroom with her lipstick
reapplied or smelling of another quick spray of perfume.
Spending Time With You
One of the most
obvious signs is that she wants to spend time with you and she makes
every effort to do so. Maybe suggesting places to go, asking for
help with something or even just singling you out to talk to when
you are in a group situation.
If you recognize
these signals, you can feel confident that the girl you like feels
the same way. If dating turns to something deeper, it’s also
important to remember that the best relationships thrive on
openness. So if there comes a time when you feel ready to talk about
autism it will usually lead to an even closer relationship.